2.20.2010

A Must Read For Every Encore Bride (or Groom)

Mr. Encore and I have been talking about possible wedding dates and places. I very much look forward to coming home after these deployments but I also need something else to focus on while deployed. The long hours and 7 day work week can get old very fast and everyone needs an outlet to stay sane.

We (OK, I) figure that doing research for the wedding can keep us occupied and might do the trick to stay sane. After doing a very quick search online for possible venues in Puerto Rico (where Mr. Encore suggested we marry) I went straight to Amazon looking for books.

What I purchased was not the latest wedding planning book but a book with a 5 stars rating called : "Every Single Girl's Guide to Her Future Husband's Last Divorce" by Adryenn Ashley. Our marriage makes the second one for both Mr. Encore and I, he has 2 children that receive support from him while I don't have any kids.

I have a 15 year career in the US Army while his is over 20 years and we both have financial responsibilities that can be expected after all this time. A marriage is not only a commitment to each other and God (or whomever you believe in) but also a legal and financial tangled web. I have not finished reading the book but so far the advice is very eye opening. The author is a forensic accountant and breaks down the legalities of merging two financial lives starting from the simple "Should we open a joint account?".

Source: Amazon.com

This book is a must read for anyone marrying for the second time or a divorced mate. Sorting out the financial picture before marriage can avoid one of the leading causes of divorces to destroy yours. After both of our divorces we were both left in financial ruin because we didn't know any better and we did anything we could to get rid of an unhappy marriage (we did not divorce at the same time or knew each other then).

Personally, I have seen one too many soldiers die in combat that married right before deployment and never sorted out their finances. After their passing the new wife and family have been left without anything because they never changed their beneficiaries of their life insurances, death benefits, wills, etc. The worst part is that the new family does not have to be notified of who received those benefits and many times the ex-wife is the beneficiary.

In my opinion before you run to buy the next edition of any bridal magazine, get yourself a copy of this book (or anyone you know planning to get married), in fact, anyone getting married or married already can benefit from it. Read it now before you have to deal with the ugly side of finances after it's too late.

*Disclaimer-This is an ad-free blog, I purchased this book and shared because I believe anyone can benefit from it. I have NOT received anything from amazon or the author in return for this post.

6 comments:

Bullfrogs & Butterflies Baby said...

Very insightful post. Best wishes with Mr. Encore!

Happy Sat. Sharefest from SITS!

Maria said...

Stopping by from SITS! Happy Saturday! You are right, you are entering a financial merger and you need to know up front what you are getting yourself into! Good luck with all the planning!

I am Harriet said...

Wonderful and informative post.

Stopping by from SITS to say hello!
Have a great day.

Harriet

Denise said...

Stopping by from SITS to say Hi!
I am adding you so I can come back & read more!
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Fri at WEDDING NOUVEAU said...

mmm...i'm set to be a bridesmaid in two weddings this year. I think I might've found my gift.

Anonymous said...

I certainly hope that updating everyone's RED is still an important part of pre-deployment briefings from leadership, whether the troop is married or not.

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